Expectations and goals

So I thought I’d start this off with my favourite quote:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure”

Now, I see this quote everyday in my house and it wasn’t till recently that it began to resonate with me. Previously, I’d prefer to hold onto the uncertainty I had within myself, as it seemed easier to me than taking a stand and being more strong in my convictions. I’d listen to others and their opinions of me, as I thought it was easier than believing in my own ability and potential. I encourage you to consume yourself with thoughts of your goals and the ways you’re going to attain them. Don’t let the passing comments of an unsupportive teacher or fake friend occupy the mind that is going to help you do great things.

Exam results is now a major topic for those who recently sat GCSE, AS and A2 exams. I urge you to please ensure you don’t let grades make you feel like your world is turning upside down because I can assure you, although it may not feel like it, you will be fine, whatever the outcome. Having been there, I know it is definitely a worrying, faint-inducing and pivotal time however, what’s done is done and you can only look to the future.

Our expectations of ourselves, expectations set unto us by others and the thought of what will be thought of us are some reasons as to why exam results bring stress. We expect things from ourselves when all we can do is try our best. However, if you know you could of done more, do better next time! There will always be another opportunity, just make sure you don’t waste it.

If you have received great results, well done! Be happy with the results you have and use the same tenacity you had when trying to achieve these results in the future to get even better results.

If you have received results you’re not so happy about, think carefully about your next steps. No decision is a wrong one as there is a lesson in everything you do however some things can be avoided by just taking some extra time to make your decisions rather than rushing. In whatever you choose to do, use your results to motivate you to do better and continue to strive for the best because you are capable.

During this time, take time to reflect and ask yourself whether you put in as much effort as you could of. I have definitely been in situations where I know I could of put more effort in and as a result, the outcome wasn’t to my liking. For example when I used to pray and ask God for things, I would expect it tomorrow morning by 9am without any effort being put in on my side (silly, I know). I now know, that with everything you want in life, effort needs to be added otherwise what you want to achieve will not be attained.

Remember, situations in life are not there to bring you down and make you sad, they’re there to teach you so that you can come back from it stronger and wiser.

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Expectations and goals

19 keys of life

I recently turned 19 so as a little birthday celebration post I have compiled 19 things which I think are the keys to a good life. They’re not in any particular order and these aren’t full fledged rules but things I have learnt and try to use in my day to day life. I hope you enjoy this and hopefully learn a few things.

  1. Optimism – this is very important. No matter what your circumstances may be, it’s always good to keep a optimistic outlook on life.
  2. Reflection – taking time out to reflect on yourself and how you’re doing, will only benefit you for the better. Being able to take time and see where you’re going right/wrong in certain areas is a vital skill to have.
  3. Being patient – whether it be with people or in life in general, patience is needed. You won’t achieve your goals overnight, but as long as you are patient and persevere, with hard work you will get there.
  4. Perseverance – following up on being patient, sticking to whatever you’re doing goes hand in hand (to me). There is no point starting something without the mindset that no matter what obstacles you face, you will still continue to push through.
  5. Taking risks – everyone loves their comfort zone. But if you are constantly there, you will never progress. Taking risks in life is needed, however make sure they’re smart ones.
  6. Enjoy life – sometimes we don’t take enough time to really enjoy ourselves and the lives we lead as we have busy, purposeful days. Take time out once in a while to really enjoy your life by doing something you love.
  7. Taking accountability for your actions – we all make mistakes, its going to happen. However it’s how we act after our mistakes that people remember. Whatever happens, make sure you take responsibility for the bad decisions you may make as well as the good ones.
  8. Being humble – humility will get you far. People tend to admire those who have a lot of success but yet don’t possess an arrogant, boastful stance on things.
  9. Being proactive – it’s good to network and make meaningful connections with those that may potentially help you out but remember, to do things for yourself. Look out for things that will benefit you e.g. asking for work experience, looking for a mentor. Opportunities won’t fall out of the sky and into your lap, you’re going to have to get up and find them.
  10. Good food – without food we can’t function. However, there is a lot of food out there. Make sure you are getting your intake of fruits and vegetables.
  11. Drinking water – as a majority of our body is made up of water it would make sense to drink a lot of it during the day, however a lot of us don’t. Start drinking more water and you will see a difference in the way you feel and how you look.
  12. Exercising – this is definitely something I don’t follow as much as I should, especially when I know how important it is. There are so many benefits to exercise from the endorphins it produces to the health benefits. Try fit in a small time to exercise during your week, whether it be by jogging in the park or following a work out video, do it!
  13. Sleep – I think a lot of us are familiar with the phrases “I’ll sleep when I’m dead” “Money don’t sleep” popular sayings usually used to imply that in order to work extra hard, sleep has to be sacrificed. You don’t sleep for fun, you sleep so your body can recuperate and repair itself after all the hard work it does during the day, so by cutting it out of your life, you will not work at your best, so all that work you’re putting in will be in vain.
  14. Good weather – believe it or not, weather affects your mood. If possible, once in a while, find climates that you know you prefer and indulge in it. Whether it be sun or snow, go and enjoy yourself.
  15. Good people in your life – the company you keep impacts you more than you realise. If you’re a positive person surrounded by negative Nellies then their view on life will affect yours. Surround yourself with like minded people for your benefit and growth.
  16. Not worrying about what other people think about you – worry about what you think, because it’s your life and no one else’s.
  17. Doing things that make you happy – whether it be shopping, walking, or playing the flute, do it. If it makes you happy, keep at it.
  18. Being thankful for your blessings – we all have something to be thankful for, our friends, our talents and the list goes on. Always be thankful.
  19. Not dwelling on your shortcomings – It is definitely easy to find yourself down in the dumps over “Ls” however whatever you’re going through will come to pass so don’t worry about it.

Anything you want me to cover on my blog? Feedback? Just want to talk? For any of the above and more, you can interact with me on the following platforms:

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19 keys of life