Self pity gets you nowhere

Psalm 55:22

self-pity – excessive, self-absorbed unhappiness over one’s own troubles.

Known as a psychological state of mind, self-pity doesn’t bring any joy or happiness. It is poisonous and dangerous, however despite that, it is very easy to land yourself into it.

I can say there have definitely been times when I have found myself suffering from self pity over situations. Times where I would be obsessing over my exam results saw not only myself in self pity, but also others, which didn’t help as we all know misery loves company. Overthinking about very temporary situations such as exam results, is not the way forward because like everything in life, exam results will pass and things will move on.

Another time I was in that state of mind was during my first year of uni. I felt unhappy at times due to where I was and what I was (or wasn’t) doing. This also stemmed from a lot of comparisons with others, which never helps. People always show their best sides to others, so comparing yourself to someone with whom you only know a fraction about, isn’t going to do you any favours. Reassuring myself that the situation I am in will soon end, gave me something to look forward to and allowed me to take control over my happiness once again.

Wallowing away in a puddle of self pity will not change a situation nor enhance it in any way. It will not add value to your life or any one else’s life around you. It will only block your journey negatively and any blessings you could have received. Removing yourself from your unhappy state can be hard but remember you have autonomy over yourself and your thoughts. Positive thoughts will bring positivity your way and as long as you keep thinking like that, you will see a turn around in your life. And as easy as it is to sit down and pity yourself whilst going through trials and tribulations, the real satisfaction arises once you rise and soar out of the depths of your sorrow.

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Self pity gets you nowhere

Ask, Seek, Knock

Luke 11:9

Asking for help is one of the most important lessons I’ve learnt so far in life. I used to be a very stubborn person when it came to asking for help especially pertaining to academia. I’d sit there and think, “I cant ask for help, then I’d look like I don’t understand” the truth was I didn’t though, and I was only hindering my education and myself by not asking. Now through asking for help in any aspect of my life that I have difficulty with, I can see myself more better off. My academic results over the years have always been underwhelming for me, and instead of talking about it with my family I’d avoid conversations about it at all costs. Mainly cause it made me sad but also because it would highlight that I’d failed them and their expectations from me. However talking to them, taking their help, and closing that chapter would of done me more good than having it loom over me like a dark cloud.

In addition to that, whenever I felt down, I’d rarely like to speak about it, thinking it’d make me look weak and in my head I had to remain strong at all times. Now that I’ve accepted It’s okay to not always be okay, and that talking and accepting help from others is normal, I find myself feeling more happier and content having shared my issues rather than kept them in.

You’ll probably be reading this thinking it’s common sense to ask for help but I’ve crossed paths with plenty of people who need help but due to pride or fear don’t ask for it. Always remember people aren’t mind readers. If you want something from someone, ask them. That is the only way you can get what you need. And I can say with complete certainty that support and guidance will only elevate you to higher places.

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Ask, Seek, Knock