#TheConversationRemix

“because I was born and raised in the ends doesn’t mean I’m a product of my environment” – Ismael Musoke 

At 18 years old, I have had quite a few conversations, with various people in different walks of life. The conversations that have have stood out to me the most are the ones pertaining to my life. And what I should do with it. It’s funny how complete strangers can give you tips on what and how you should live your life, when they have never walked a mile in your shoes. It’s easy and probably fulfilling to advice someone on what they should do, but what works for one doesn’t work for all.

“Keep studying and once you finish your education, you’ll have a good, easy life.”

This sentence has been reiterated to me over and over again, and yet I still don’t believe it. Many people before me have finished their education but would I say their lives are easy? No. The grind doesn’t suddenly get easier as education ends. The pedestal education is put on, overshadows other key areas we all need in our lives. The importance of networking, gaining experience, being well rounded in other areas, are rarely mentioned. I believe a combination of these will help get you closer to where you want to be, than if education was just used alone.

“South London girls are loud.” “Girls from South are rowdy.”

And the stereotypes go on. You see statements like this mainly on twitter or hear it when people are talking, whilst some say it as a joke, there are others who say it with a bit more sincerity. I know I don’t fit the stereotype of a South London girl. One because becoming a “stereotypical” product of my environment was never my plan. And secondly, to me, stereotyping thousands of girls from one area to a one size fits all ideology has never and will never make sense. We are all individuals, with different personalities and backgrounds. So how can we all act the same?

Endless conversations but one thing stays the same. What happens to me is up to me and nobody else, despite all the advice given. It is up to me and the work I do, which will take me to where I need to get to.

Check out the original The Conversation piece by Ismael Musoke

https://youtu.be/X3C26jm7SdQ

His social media:

Soundcloud: https://m.soundcloud.com/ismaelmusoke 

Twitter: @IsmaelMusoke

Instagram: @callmeish

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Love you, even when they don’t

Currently, we live in a society where young people globally, are being more vocal in their love for who they are and their flaws which make them their unique selves. There is also more appreciation for the beauty in all races and looks rather than a constant badgering about a specific type of people.

Whether you want to admit it or not, growing up for some of us, we heard a lot about one type of look and less about another. I can admit I also fell under that trap and “preferred” a certain look to another, without really thinking it was that serious. But as I look back I think about the implications such behaviour could have had for the people around me. As a young girl, I remember hating the stretch marks my thighs and bum possessed as I saw it as an imperfection, and those weren’t applauded by the media and my young counterparts back then. I used to wish I could be a bit lighter, with looser curls in my hair so I could also have the preferred look that I saw around me.

Fun fact, in addition to my first name, I also have four other names, some easy to pronounce and some slightly harder ones. Growing up, I would hate hearing my names being called out during things like assembly, mainly due to the mispronunciations and the chuckles that followed, which on a whole made me feel embarrassed and uncomfortable. With time thankfully, I have grown to be comfortable and love these things which at one point I detested, so things like that can’t affect me anymore. But that’s not the case for everyone. There are loads of people, young and old, that may not like a certain feature or characteristic about themselves due to their peers or their own insecurities. Now I can’t say it is easy to not listen to the opinions of others and internalise them but one thing to remember is that opinions are just opinions. They’re not God written rules. It is normal to go back and forth questioning the opinions of others, but that won’t change them. As long as you stand true to what you believe, and continue to love yourself, then opinions will fall off you like water on a ducks back.

Anything you want me to cover on my blog? Feedback? Just want to talk? For any of the above and more, you can interact with me on the following platforms:

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Love you, even when they don’t